My Mom passed away

[Main Streeter]

senior center says they need my new I.D. card to do the background check, but I can't make my card come any faster. Why can't they just use my Social to do the background check? The person who does the housing match is only in on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9 to 1.

SS card doesn't provide enough info, nor is it a Ca. State ID. Orange Senior Center gal(s) in the office until at least 3 p.m. daily. Rebecca is such a nice person. She really does try her best to match up. Often she gives all info via phone without an interview. An interview is a must but rules are broken :) when the need is asap. There has been a new housing gal the last few months who is a dynamo. She has the greatest sense of humor & makes everyone around her laugh. I like to call & just say "Hi" if I have time. She has done so much for Orange. Maybe all depends on .... well, whatever. Please call again & explain your ASAP needs. Don't call for help if you are going to rip them apart. Not a good thing. ;) Though I know what you meant & realize you'd not take it to this level. Try http://www.pennysaverusa.com CMs seem to like this better than Craigslist. There is a "room for rent in cozy home" sign in Main St. East Breakroom. The owner would take a cat but her home is in La Mirada or up in that area, so not sure you'd be interested. $550 - $600 is her asking price, however she might come down as $$ is not a huge issue. Am not sure if she has 2 rooms or just one. Last yr. at this time she had 2 rooms. She inherited the home & has her bestfriend as a roommate..... so the story goes. Maybe Purpura could get you the # & pm you. Don't think I'll be near my computer this weekend.

[felinefan]

Called the senior center--don't worry, I calmed down--and spoke to Caitlyn again. She told me of this lady, but had forgotten to ask about pets. Called the lady and left a message, she called back, and she can't take pets because of asthma. :(

Called a person I had left a message with the other day--a guy lives there, and their rooms are all taken. I have one person left. Caitlyn says she will put out more feelers among the staff. She has me at the front of her list. I did get my I.D. card yesterday. No, it's gotta be Orange county, preferably north end. I hate it when I try to get things done, and I keep running into obstacles.

[felinefan]

Oh, as for Pennysaver--too many ads say no pets, or the people in the house smoke, or they're out of my price range. I checked Recycler, they have nothing, period. The most I can spend is $550 a month, with utilities.

[mechurchlady]

I am still here but I am setting and waiting to see who will donate money and who will offer to help with the moving. I can move all the boxes in my old car but the furniture is the problem and you need to move even if it is oxnard. You know my mom is hypersensitive and would not deal well with a stranger and I really cannot afford over $500 to repair the house enough for it to be half way liveable as there probably is mildew and mold in that room.

I believe in miracles and I am remembering how in the past others have pitched in. I was hoping we could all donate 1% of our weekly wages to help her move. I was hoping that someone here could pitch in and say they could loan a truck or van for the move. I was hoping someone would chime in beside me and Main Streeter. I guess I was wrong. I remember the help you offered me in the past and the good deeds but hoping and wishing is for fools and innocent children.

[felinefan]

I checked U-Haul--it's what, $40-$50 a day? Techie-13 offered in a PM to overnight something to me, but I don't know if it will get here in time. My youngest sister called me a little while ago and got on my case, especially about Tripod. I don't want to put her in a rescue--all the rescues, etc. are full with people having to surrender their pets because of the foreclosure situation. People are afraid to take someone who's unemployed, even if they say they have an inheritance that will pay the rent, and it will be paid on time.

I'm trying to get over a cold, and now I'm crying--I hate crying, my nose stuffs up and I can't take decongestants with my blood pressure. My younger sister--the one with the attitude--called last night to remind me she has plans this weekend, and I'd better be out of here on the 30th at the latest.

Churchy, I still have most of the money you gave me--if necessary, I could pay for a U-Haul, but where will we move my stuff to? If neccesary I could put most of my stuff in storage temporarily. But Tripod has to stay with me. I still haven't cashed the check from the research place, otherwise I'd consider boarding Tripod at my vet for a couple of days. Then she can get her blood work and shots done.

I hate it when my plans fall through like this--I'd ask my dad, but I don't know if he has room at his house, and he lives all the way down in Lake Elsinore.

[DisneyMom]

In this day and time we all have to think...What if?
Many people are living in tents now, victims of bad luck or whatever. :(
I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but maybe you can adjust to what you have to until something better comes along.
I suggest that maybe you could put your stuff in storage, call your Father and see if he could put up you and Tripod temporarily, and if not, consider any/all other options out there.....I had to give up my dog to move where I did 12 years ago, but I made sure she went to a good home with some friends and it was like Doggie Club Med for her. I still feel bad but it actually was the best thing for all of us. Maybe someone can just take care of your cat temporarily. I know you are probably against this, but the situation sounds desperate.
One thing I'm curious about....If rent is paid until the first, why do you have to get out by the 30th? 31 days in March I thought.
Have you talked to the current landlords? Maybe they can help somehow.

[techie-13]

felinefan, look for a PM! :D:

[felinefan]

Because my name isn't/wasn't on the lease, and my younger sister is the executrix of mom's estate is why she's making me move out by the 30th. I did email dad. Even went on Yahoo maps to look at his house--okay, a bird's eye view doesn't tell you much, but I was also looking at the city of Lake Elsinore website--very nice. I can see why dad chose to live there.

Trouble is, Tripod is so bonded to me, it would stress her out too much to put her with someone else, and I don't have too many friends here. And I would most definately freak out without her. I was already thinking of putting stuff in storage. Saw the PM, Techie-13, and thanks again.

I mean, it would be so nice if people who place these ads would 1.) put their phone number where they can be reached in their ads, and 2.) have the common courtesy to call or email and let me know. When I called this place today, I said I needed to hear back from them today. I usually wait until 10 p.m. to hear from people, because I can understand people have stuff to do after work, or they forget to check their messages, etc.. I'm beginning to wonder if I should look at one of these extended stay places--but with my luck, they either don't accept pets or they'd be out of my price range.

This is starting to remind me of when I lived in Azusa 6 years ago. I was being stubborn about moving in with mom, and I was desperately looking for work (Gray Davis was governor of California then, and he was taxing businesses out of the state, which meant there was a dearth of jobs) and I was being evicted from my apartment. At the last minute some friends from my church got me out of there, like 12 hours before the sheriff, and I was put in a little motel with a two night voucher. They didn't accept pets, so I had to smuggle Tripod in. I went without food the whole time, because I only had $20 on me, and I was too scared to leave Tripod to go across the street to get something to eat.

I DO NOT NEED A REPEAT OF THAT, ESPECIALLY SINCE THIS TIME I DON'T HAVE A CHURCH TO LEAN ON THIS TIME.

The second morning, somebody from my church came to pick me up, --my stuff was at the church--took me to the church and let me use his cell phone to call people. Mom came and got me. Later, the church helped me get the rest of my stuff. You wanna know what the strange thing was, before that? My then pastor had been preaching on helping the poor, but somehow everybody was focusing on this other woman in the church, but I was being ignored. I was actually being blamed and criticized for my predicament. But that's not the reason mostly, I haven't been to church in 6 years. It was mom and logistics. So, what does that tell me? Lean on people some of the time, do stuff yourself the rest of the time?

What really kills me is that people are renting out rooms in order to make a little extra money during this economic downturn, yet they're afraid because I'm not working. I have told people they will be paid on time from my inheritance, but it doesn't matter. Worse, in my area, it's mostly college kids who are trying to afford the rents here while attending college. They want people their own age, not their mom's age. I have to put up with fearful, untrusting people on one hand and ageism on the other. It's worse than the job market. And my two younger sisters picking on me all the time.

The sister who's handling mom's estate works for a husband and wife team of attorneys, specializing in real estate. I've house-sat for them before, and they really like me. Which means I can't get an attorney of my own to go after my sister--messy. It seems like the ones who are closest to oneself are always the ones to hurt you the most. And I grew up in an era when the family was your support system. Not mine--but you know all that already. My life sucks. I bust my butt all my life trying to make my modest dreams come true, but everyone in my family worked just as hard if not harder to keep that from happening. Then they blame me. One of these days.... karma is gonna bite them in the @$$ and they're gonna wonder why.

[felinefan]

Oh, about the landlords--the Irvine Company is not known for being nice about desperate situations. All they care about is money.

[DisneyMom]

I hope your Dad comes thru......
Lake Elsinore is near Temecula which was an exploding area up to recently.....
may be able to find a room/job and be near Father until things look up. Some predict recession will be over after a year or two.