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Re: My Mom passed away
Posted: Sat Feb 28, 2009 8:19 am
by Purpura
Big Wallaby wrote:You know, you could always point your sister's husband here, and let him come to his own conclusions...
On second thought, that's a bad idea. I didn't post such a thing.
How about we train an elephant to sit on Feline's Sister's husband and the sister... That would be better. put it in your novel Felinefan :) :twisted:
Re: My Mom passed away
Posted: Sat Feb 28, 2009 8:01 pm
by felinefan
Churchy, the 3rd I have my final visit at the research center, after which they'll put me on regular meds for my blood pressure. Today my sister and oldest niece came by, got more stuff from the storage areas, tossed a bunch of stuff, some of it mine, and when I went to pick up a few little boxes that had once held almond nougaut, my sister screamed that if I took one more thing, she was just going to move my bed, clothes and computer, the rest I could move myself. After she left, the thought occurred to me: the law of reaping and sowing, known as karma to Hindus, is going to come one of these days and bite her in the @$$. I can hardly wait for that day to come.
I'm trying to do some major cleaning around here and still trying to get a room situation.
Well, I may not have elephants sitting on people planned, but the more you make a character repulsive, the more the hero will be supported. All this just adds detail for the persona of my main characters' persecutors. I actually used the forms of my parents' and siblings' middle or first names as the names of my heroine's evil cousins, as well as her parents. But believe me, in due time, each of the baddies will get their comeuppance.
Re: My Mom passed away
Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 12:09 am
by mechurchlady
Calvin and a friend and I will come move you so tell your sister that if need be I will pay Calvin a bunch of brisket, cornbread and cookies to move you so that ends that problem.
3rd I get paid big time so I will know what is what.
Sending you big hugs and chocolates. They are right that you need to take control of your life but the person has to realize there is a problem then want to act on the problem so her threats are idle and where is the love in this time of mourning.
Hugs
Laurie
I have not given you my phone number but purpura has it as I trust her.
Re: My Mom passed away
Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 5:56 pm
by CBeilby
I forwarded it to her, Churchy.
Re: My Mom passed away
Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 6:04 pm
by felinefan
My sister says she told the leasing office I'm here until the end of March, but if she moves me, it would have to be the last weekend of March due to everyone's work schedules.
Still waiting to hear back from the $385 place. Maybe if I don't hear from her tonight, I'll email her my phone number. I got yours, Churchy. So what if it's long distance for me, huh? My sister's payin' the bill, anyway, and by the time she sees the charge for calling you, it'll be too late, right? :twisted:
(sings) That's what friends are for....
Re: My Mom passed away--UPDATE
Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 6:13 pm
by Notatourist
felinefan wrote:The room with the micro and fridge didn't work out, my sister gave me a couple more places, and there's one place for $385 a month. It looks promising. I'd have to share the bath, but sometimes you gotta do what ya gotta do....
My sister and oldest niece were here earlier to day. The paperwork for mom's insurance came in the mail, and it turns out it wasn't $1500, it was $1000. Why mom told me it was $1500 I don't know. Anyway, my sister screamed at me today because despite my having gone through my stuff I still have what she considers to be too much stuff. I've been like this, a person to hold onto things, all my life, especially books. And if you want to see alot of stuff, you should see her garage and her home. She's got tons more stuff than I do, mostly knick-knacks, that do nothing but collect dust.
I was concerned that my money wouldn't get to me in time to pay for my first month's rent on the room, that's why I keep asking about it. I don't want to inconvenience people who are depending on a roomie to pay their share on time. Anyway, my sister screamed at me about that, and my stuff, and threatened to cut me loose and let me flounder around on my own. I never wanted to live with mom all my life, and it was mom's fault I haven't been able to get a decent job, but I know it's futile trying to get that through to her. And this is my younger sister! It's out of order for younger siblings to be over older ones, but my family is so screwed up it isn't funny.
On top of that, she said mom gave instructions that none of my money is to be used for Tripod's veterinary bills. She will not authorize the expenditure of money for vaccinations, bloodwork and medications for Tripod, who has hyperthyroidism. Of course, my sister had a dog, she let its health slide and it had to be put down. She got the dog despite the fact that her husband was opposed to it. She also has a cat, and I bet she'll do to it what she did to the dog.
Of course, when you grow up with someone, you get to know the real deal. My sister was usually a snob, even when we played she had to take center stage, she ran the show. I mean, she can be nice when it's to her advantage, but her true self is that she is very self-centered. I found out one time when mom and I were at her place, we were getting mom's mail and the newspaper, and mom warned me about touching stuff on the table; she had her stuff in piles, her husband's stuff in another pile, and some stuff of hers she didn't want her own husband to see, because mom said she was spending money and didn't want her husband knowing how much. I'd love to be a fly on the wall when someday her husband finds out what she's been hiding from him.
Churchy, I'd love to let you sit on my sister for me, but she works for an attorney, and I just don't think that would be a very good idea. She'll get her just desserts one day; I just have to be patient and wait...... I already have her pegged as a bad guy in my novel series I'm working on. :twisted:
You know, after thinking about the statment about Tripod's medical bills...once you're settled in your new place, ask her to see what Mom's wishes were. If they are "At the Attorney's", get in touch with Legal Aid.
Re: My Mom passed away
Posted: Sun Mar 01, 2009 6:25 pm
by felinefan
Knowing mom, those were her wishes. Oh, well, after I get settled I can start writing, stuff that I can sell quickly, and sock that away and hopefully have enough to get Tripod radioiodine treatment so she doesn't need to take pills every day. If my sister pays the first month's rent at my new place and takes it out of my share of the inheritance, I would have the money from the blood pressure study to pay for her vaccinations and bloodwork, etc.. I've applied for a job at Home Depot, though quite frankly whenever I'm there, I see an awful lot of employees standing around. My vet uses 3 year vaccines whenever possible, and gives me the low rate even if I'm not there for the low-cost clinic. This year's shots and bloodwork will come to $82; a friend is paying for Tripod's pills. So that's basically covered for now.
Re: My Mom passed away
Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 10:25 pm
by felinefan
I posted an ad on Craiglist for a room last night. I hope I hear from someone soon; I'm one of those people who likes to use the post office's change of address kits, and they make you send them 30 days ahead of your move. And I have magazines coming every month. I could change my address online to the magazines, but that can take even longer, 6-8 weeks usually.
I figure I'll have over a dozen boxes, plus several pieces of luggage, all heavy from books, etc., and I'd need a couple of strong guys with handtrucks and maybe a flatbed to get it all. On top of that, I have an antique wooden dresser that must be tossed before it falls apart. I have a twin size bed, computer desk and chair, plus a big blue plastic bin as well. There's not a whole lot left to pack now. I'll continue to keep you informed of things.
My youngest sister called me last night and brought up an important point--I don't know if I'll have phone service all the way to the end of the month. My other sister (the pill) has mom's purse and everything in it, including her cell phone. Hears hoping I have phone service to the end of the month, or I may have to get one of those prepaid phones. (Anybody have any suggestions as to the best ones/least expensive out there? Thanks).
Re: My Mom passed away
Posted: Mon Mar 02, 2009 11:43 pm
by mechurchlady
Don't worry about the moving and I should still have a dolly around the garage. Things will work out. Been a good grocery month. I need three more things that I can think of and the usual weekly bread and salad stuff.
Sending you a big hug
Re: My Mom passed away
Posted: Tue Mar 03, 2009 12:00 am
by DisneyMom
Virgin Mobile has phones that cost as little as about 10 bucks for phone and needs as little as $20.00 to top up every 3 months or you lose the minutes you have left over. Ralph's has a go- phone that seems to have a similar plan.
Maybe the computer geeks here know a good way to combine phone/computer services for a low cost. ;)