Stupid Guest Tricks

Felinefan, I am so, so sorry to hear about your Mom and your difficult situation (((((Hugs)))) I'm sorry I didn't respond to this sooner.

I just get furious reading that your family held you back- the same thing has happened to my brother- my parents did the same thing and now he's 30, has never held a job or driven a car. I seriously fear for what will happen to him when they're gone.

You said: it took me 35 years to find out that I'm an ISTJ on the Meyers-Briggs Temerment Indicator, and it takes me time to thoroughly analyze things. But my I.Q. is in the gifted range. There are so many myths about what intelligent means....

I swear this is why I tell everyone I meet, especially kids that I know that are college age or high school about the Keirsey temperament sorter. I'm an INFJ and if I'd known at 18 what I know now about the types, life would have been a lot different and a lot easier for me. Everyone should take the sorter.

Bless your heart, I wish I had something profound to say. All I can tell you is that I'm thinking of you, and I'm sorry I can't offer more practical assistance...

hugs
Bru

Thanks Bru. I think they should make the MBTI and the Keirsey Sorter mandatory for kids 12 and up, or prior to entering junior high, because unless schools have changed radically since I was in grade school, in junior high is when they start offering electives. So it would behoove schools to give kids every opportunity to help kids find their place in the world. Because I'm afraid parents aren't doing the job anymore.

Well, all I can say is that Mom knew for the last 2 1/2 years she wasn't going to be around much longer. They told her when they diagnosed her with two aortic abdominal aneurysms and COPD, they gave her two years before one or the other would finish her off. It was sheer cussedness that she outlived their predictions by six months. But that was mom.


But it was mostly preventable. Had she quit smoking back in the 70s, her lungs would've healed. And had she not loaded her food with so much salt, maybe her blood pressure wouldn't have been so high and caused the aneurysms. But she made foolish choices. I'm nearing the end of a blood pressure study, thought today was my last appointment but there's one more next week; they say they will get me started on medication, because my BP is too darn high. Mom used me from the time I was a kid as a walking garbage disposal; I definately need to get weight off. *SIGH* How did I end up in such an abusive, dysfunctional family? Oh, yeah, that's right, I'm a writer, and I need stuff like that for plot and characterization. I saw this quote somewhere, maybe here: "If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance."--George Bernard Shaw. Okay family skeleton, put on your dancing shoes and prepare to cut some rug!!!!

felinefan wrote:"If you cannot get rid of the family skeleton, you may as well make it dance."--George Bernard Shaw.

I like that! :D:

The Kid has to be self-motivated, though. I have made a point of encouraging my kids to take advantage of the opportunities available to them,
and it seems that sometimes I'm pushing them kicking and screaming!
I'm just talking about doing things like homework to succeed in their current classes that THEY chose, planning ahead and taking responsibility (like making sure they get the right books and materials for their classes, etc. I'm currently having to get up at midnight several nights a week so son#2 doesn't have to walk home from his job, and that needs to STOP, he'll rely on me forever if I let him. :mad: He is doing well at his job, so I'm thinking we'll get him a motorized scooter AND he'll pay me back.
I'm too old for this stuff!

Ah, good old George. I love his quotes- but you know, another writer, Yeats said "If suffering brings wisdom, I would wish to be less wise."

((((((Felinefan)))))))

You should work on a book a little bit at a time while you're working on everything else- writing can be a great distraction from real life- believe me, I know it's what keeps me anywhere near the neighborhood of sane (though I've been living on the outskirts of that town for years)

I have already had my daughter take the Keirsey sorter though I predicted the outcome ahead of time and I was right. She's an Idealist Champion. It's difficult for me as an introvert (yes, really- believe it or not I am- it's hard to be introverted on a message board or you never say anything LOL) to understand her need for constant social contact. She is recharged by being with people- it drains me. So I've had to make sure that her needs are met despite my health problems and she has a good circle of friends and sees them on a regular basis (even more important because we homeschool)

I know what you mean about kids who will rely on you forever, Disneymom- my brother will just sit there until the day he's removed letting my parents do everything for him. It makes me absolutely ...ggahhhhhh. But I can't think about it too long. I just keep telling them that the situation is too big for me to handle- they've all been warned.

((((((Felinefan)))))))) just another hug. Thinking of you.

Bru

OMG!!!! SO sorry. *Many Hugs.* Sending good thoughts and prayers in your direction.

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I touched bases with the one place that has a room for rent, letting the person know about my financial state and asking if that would be a problem. Still waiting to hear from the last one on my list, if I don't hear a peep from them by the first I'm going with the one not far from me. I did a bit more going through my stuff. Tomorrow I'll finish, then after my aunt comes out for the funeral on the 16th, I'll start more "official" packing. Might have to get a hot plate--the room I'm considering has a microwave and a fridge, and I need to heat some stuff on a stove. There are no house privileges, so it's not like I can borrow the use of their stove.

The room with the micro and fridge didn't work out, my sister gave me a couple more places, and there's one place for $385 a month. It looks promising. I'd have to share the bath, but sometimes you gotta do what ya gotta do....

My sister and oldest niece were here earlier to day. The paperwork for mom's insurance came in the mail, and it turns out it wasn't $1500, it was $1000. Why mom told me it was $1500 I don't know. Anyway, my sister screamed at me today because despite my having gone through my stuff I still have what she considers to be too much stuff. I've been like this, a person to hold onto things, all my life, especially books. And if you want to see alot of stuff, you should see her garage and her home. She's got tons more stuff than I do, mostly knick-knacks, that do nothing but collect dust.

I was concerned that my money wouldn't get to me in time to pay for my first month's rent on the room, that's why I keep asking about it. I don't want to inconvenience people who are depending on a roomie to pay their share on time. Anyway, my sister screamed at me about that, and my stuff, and threatened to cut me loose and let me flounder around on my own. I never wanted to live with mom all my life, and it was mom's fault I haven't been able to get a decent job, but I know it's futile trying to get that through to her. And this is my younger sister! It's out of order for younger siblings to be over older ones, but my family is so screwed up it isn't funny.

On top of that, she said mom gave instructions that none of my money is to be used for Tripod's veterinary bills. She will not authorize the expenditure of money for vaccinations, bloodwork and medications for Tripod, who has hyperthyroidism. Of course, my sister had a dog, she let its health slide and it had to be put down. She got the dog despite the fact that her husband was opposed to it. She also has a cat, and I bet she'll do to it what she did to the dog.

Of course, when you grow up with someone, you get to know the real deal. My sister was usually a snob, even when we played she had to take center stage, she ran the show. I mean, she can be nice when it's to her advantage, but her true self is that she is very self-centered. I found out one time when mom and I were at her place, we were getting mom's mail and the newspaper, and mom warned me about touching stuff on the table; she had her stuff in piles, her husband's stuff in another pile, and some stuff of hers she didn't want her own husband to see, because mom said she was spending money and didn't want her husband knowing how much. I'd love to be a fly on the wall when someday her husband finds out what she's been hiding from him.

Churchy, I'd love to let you sit on my sister for me, but she works for an attorney, and I just don't think that would be a very good idea. She'll get her just desserts one day; I just have to be patient and wait...... I already have her pegged as a bad guy in my novel series I'm working on. :twisted:

You know, you could always point your sister's husband here, and let him come to his own conclusions...

On second thought, that's a bad idea. I didn't post such a thing.

I have to go to the store today then Disneyland on Sunday then pay the new credit card, lol. At least now I can go shopping when I want instead of on the third. I will send you some money on the third. If you want to join us I would gladly drag you along but I have to leave around 4 then go home and feed mom. I could leave you with Calvin and let you keep him on a leash.

Let us know what you need and we will try to help.

Hugs Laurie