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Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 5:17 am
by Driver_dylan
Speaking of keeping your kids under controle, My sister an I were once walking through DHS back when it was MGM. we were walking past TOT on our way to ST but we happened to go by GMR (getting alphabet fried yet :bugeyes: :break: :drool :) At about this point my niece (about 4 at the time) started to act up that she wanted to go on a ride. So my family and I changed plans and decided to take her on GMR (not the best choice, but hey.) As we waited in the line, Rachel became increeseingly adigetated from not being able to walk around. (she is normally very paitent for her age and will wait as long as she knows what she is in line for) Although we tried to explain whaqt we were doing the argument ended with "Rachel be quiet and wait, you will enjoy it." She continued to push her mothers buttons and my sister finally gave her a single swift swat on her butt.
Rachel immedatly quieted down and we got on the ride. All went well and she had fun and was in fact laughing as we exited when we were called over by security. It seemed that a guest had seen my sisters actions and ran off to tell security that my sister was beating her child. To securities credit they were very nice about the whole thing and after asking Rachel what happened, (she told them all about her first two hours in the park and how much fun she was having, but glanced over the part about what happened in the line) they applogised for stopping us and let us go.
Although I have never seen my sister get that red from embarrisment before, we later were able to laugh it off and get on with our day. Yet I know that I had to wonder about what that guest was thinking was going on :confused: . I mean we were in a group of eight. (Me and Steph, both CM's; My mother and father; My sister; her boyfriend; Rachel; My sisters friend; and her 1 & 1/2 year old.) Technically nine, but still?

Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 8:33 am
by DisneyMom
Yeah, this "you can't spank your kid" thing is too much! I did swat my kids a few times usually something for their safety. One time my younger son informed me that if I spanked him, he would call the police! :eek: I told him fine, I would give him to the police to keep from me! :twisted: he never said it again.
I'm not saying to it's ok to BEAT the kids, so don't misinterpret!

Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 10:20 am
by Tiny Tim
My three boys( 9,8,7) are adopted( 2 now and the last in the next 3 months)and dcf preaches dont hit. The last boy had a problem till we got his meds right. Our genuis caseworker told us if he acts up to baker act him. One time it got to that point and we called and the cop that was sent asked if we tried spanking him. We explaned about dealing with dcf and following what they said he laughed and said "that spanking is ok and that if it was done to an extreme then we would have problems. Also dcf will not arrest you no matter what they think but we will" So i dont beat them( and never will) but a well placed smack once in a while. The oldest tried that i going to call the cops routine on me and i just picked up the phone handed it to him gave him the number and he chickened out real fast. I dont expect them to be perfect all the time but i do expect them not to be out of control like some are.

Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 6:53 pm
by Shorty82
Proper spanking is good for a kid. It teaches them to not do whatever it was they did. I was spanked growing up and feel I am a better person for it. Grounding the child might work for some kids but not for others, spanking works pretty well all around.

You beat a child and I'll have a problem, spanking a misbehaving child is a different thing. I've spanked my little cousin when she's done something wrong and she learned not to do that thing again. I'd tell her she had three seconds to straighten up or I'd spank her. After slowly and loudly counting down from three if she was still doing it I'd spank her. It didn't take her long to learn to straighten up fast if I started counting down.

I plan on spanking any kid I eventually have when they misbehave. Not to hard or long but enough to teach them not to do the wrong thing again.

Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 11:39 pm
by felinefan
We were spanked too (I have siblings), and none of us got a complex over it. There were times when Dad would go overboard on the yelling--once he told us to be mean to one of my younger sisters when we were eating in a restaurant because she left 3 french fries on her plate. :eek: I mean, I know both my parents came from poverty-stricken, large families during the Depression, and doubtless they were raised with the admonition not to waste food, but come on!

Kids today are such manipulative actors. They do things to try and wheedle stuff out of adults and get their own way, and when they get caught and punished, they aren't sorry for what they did, they're just sorry they were caught. Parents are no better; they don't lay down the law with their kids, and just let them run all over them. Then they wonder why their kids are always in trouble, and in order to keep from looking like "bad parents", they scream that they're being 'picked on".

And teachers and principals can't do anything either. In my day, if you got sent to the principal's office, that was a reason to be afraid. The teacher or the principal had carte blanche to paddle you if you did wrong. Now if a teacher or school official looks at a kid the wrong way they get in trouble.
I swear somebody is out there trying to destroy this country, and they're doing it by tearing down parental and other authority in schools and society.

Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 12:32 am
by hobie16
felinefan wrote:Kids today are such manipulative actors.
Yup. I told my daughter she wasn't going somewhere. She responded with,"Do you thing I'm going to get drunk, do drugs, join a gang, get pregnant, rob a store?"

I replied, "I hadn't, but now that you bring it up, yes."

End of conversation.

Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 11:05 am
by Christine43
hobie16 wrote:I told my daughter she wasn't going somewhere. She responded with,"Do you thing I'm going to get drunk, do drugs, join a gang, get pregnant, rob a store?"

I replied, "I hadn't, but now that you bring it up, yes."
That sounds like a quote from my 16 yr. old daughter. Now, she's a great kid but I still keep her on an appropriate leash and I believe that's why she IS a great kid. I keep communication open and we can discuss anything but some things are simply not negotiable.

Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 9:47 am
by Moonliner
What's worse is parents who count to three, giving their kids a) free time to continue doing the mischief, or b) time to get away from the parent. I taught my kids early that when I started to count, it would be the number of times they would get swat. And it would not stop at three. Very rarely would it get past "I'm going to count." And almost never past "One."

When my oldest was 6 we were on our way out of a mall when she began to act up. I grabbed her little hand tightly to lead her out of the store. She decided to do the 'go limp' routine and collapsed to the floor. Now I'm 6' 3", and she was about 4'. My arm is about 3' long and hers is 2'. That leaves a 12 inch difference, resulting in the dislocation of her shoulder. She cried "Daddy, you broke my arm!" and we went straight to the ER. I kept glancing over my shoulder, and waiting for the questioning at the hospital, but it never came. I was a lot more careful after that, and she never refused a request to follow me.

Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 12:21 pm
by GRUMPY PIRATE
Moonliner wrote:What's worse is parents who count to three, giving their kids a) free time to continue doing the mischief, or b) time to get away from the parent. I taught my kids early that when I started to count, it would be the number of times they would get swat. And it would not stop at three. Very rarely would it get past "I'm going to count." And almost never past "One."

When my oldest was 6 we were on our way out of a mall when she began to act up. I grabbed her little hand tightly to lead her out of the store. She decided to do the 'go limp' routine and collapsed to the floor. Now I'm 6' 3", and she was about 4'. My arm is about 3' long and hers is 2'. That leaves a 12 inch difference, resulting in the dislocation of her shoulder. She cried "Daddy, you broke my arm!" and we went straight to the ER. I kept glancing over my shoulder, and waiting for the questioning at the hospital, but it never came. I was a lot more careful after that, and she never refused a request to follow me.
It must have been just a slight sprain!!!

A good lesson in the dangers of going limp!!

Re: Mean/Rude kids

Posted: Sat Mar 15, 2008 3:41 pm
by SWTexasBelle
I count to three - but rarely, RARELY, get past one. One is - get here now. Two is - you are getting a spanking. Three - you are getting a spanking and your life will not be worth living.