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lady ulrike wrote:Parenting means that you have to make sacrifices and can't always do what you want to do when you want to do it.

You know, that's the comment I was trying to make in another thread about the sixteen-year-old pregnant girl. I wasn't finding the words, simple as they are...

Big Wallaby wrote:You know, that's the comment I was trying to make in another thread about the sixteen-year-old pregnant girl. I wasn't finding the words, simple as they are...

The only problem now is that a lot of people (SG'S!!) have the attitude that "I can do anything with my kids, and if you stop me you are being prejudice towards parents" Even if it is stoopid!!

Randy B wrote:True, but children reach that revelation at a different age. Also, tho the intellectual part of the mind may recognize that it isn't real, the emotional side frequently lags behind. So even when the child will know something is fake, the emotions will allow nightmares and even phobias for some time to come (and in some cases for life). And with less "learned knowledge" it is harder to come up with reasons to override the emotions before they become so deeply ingrained that they hold on even after the logic side learns the "truth". Heck, this disconnect between emotion and logic can even effect adults. How many people have an unreasoning fear of something that they will fully admit is unreasoning. Logic says that clowns or snakes or spiders or deep water or whatever is not "out to get them" but the emotions won't listen.

Randy

They ARE out to get me, those spiders and snakes and deep water! They are, I just know it! I do!!!!!! :twisted: ;)

lady ulrike wrote:Parenting means that you have to make sacrifices and can't always do what you want to do when you want to do it.

Truer words have never been spoken, but many parents are not ready to be unselfish and take responsibility for the child, instead of feeding their own needs immediately. I am always in awe of parents who ARE parents. And you can tell who they are before meeting them, you just have to meet their children. It is amazing. Ralph and I were introduced by a couple that at the time, 1995, had 3 small ones. They are now growing up, it is 13 years later, but those kids are so respectful and happy and well adjusted, because their parents did not spoil them or put themselves before raising the kids. It is a delicate balance and not everyone gets it.

Unfortunately, the Britney Spears of the world are becoming the norm with young moms who are kids themselves still. They have no idea of how to raise a child because of their own upbringing and because they are children themselves. They should be playing with a DOLL, not a real baby! It is the little babies born to therse irresponsible children who suffer the consequences of bad parenting. EVERY one who wants to have a child should go through parenting classes, even those who are good parents. They could help teach the others a thing or two or ten!

Though we have no human children, we made many sacrifices for our kittycat, Orion when he was sick. He had diabetes and we HAD to be here 12 hours apart to give him his injection of insulin. We did it. And when he was diagnosed with cancer, we cancelled a trip that would have taken us away from him for a month, because he was only expected to live 2-3 months and we would have been gone right at that very time. We stayed with him everyday (being retired means you can stay home 24/7 and not HAVE to leave the house) and I do not regret a second of *lost time*. The last months I had with him are memories I will treasure forever. He was like a son to us. I can never explain that to people, that Orion really was more like a human child, because we had to care for him like one with all the medical issues and we felt that way about him. We talked to him and he really had his own way of communicating with us. We knew we had to sacrifice and we did, because we loved him and we still do...he is now our Guardian Angelcat and watching over us, as we did him here on earth! :)
Sacrifice like that comes from love and is never a burden.
susi