Maybe there aren't, or at least not in terms of the people you hang out with. I mostly get that kind of stuff from my parents and their friends, who tend to be conformist to the max.LucyintheSky wrote:I've happily gone to WDW with another adult or completely alone for years now, and never thought that there were people out there calling me a weirdo! But the idea of strangers judging me makes my blood boil.
My friends are more likely to respond "cool!", or "tell me more about that," or "I'm not into that." They're not going to give me any grief about my vacation choices because conformity is not part of their social identity. :p:I also think people with a more "out there", forceful personality don't hear that sort of thing. Nor do people with a lot of power, whether that power is sheer size or money or social prestige. I'm sure part of the reason I hear that sort of thing more from my parents and their friends is that they're older and more powerful and thus more willing to try and tell me what to do.
Although I think they've mostly learned to back off -- all I actually hear anymore about my Disney obsession is my mother's occasional, kind of plaintive,"It really puzzles me why you're so into it."My husband is convinced that no one cares that he's holding up the fast food line by refusing to figure out what he and the kids want before getting to the cashier, either. He also has no idea that anyone cares about him stopping dead in a crowded area with people moving rapidly in both directions. He once saw me and turned around halfway up a streaming crowd on a staircase to fight his way back down to join me, and was amazed when I told him I was not the only one he'd annoyed by that.Goofyernmost wrote:I never had any indication or even the slightest hint that any one in the park gave a damn about it.
Not to say that's where you're at, but people definitely vary in their ability to pick up social cues. Hubby does not even notice when people yell at him, but my brother, who totally gets what an indignant "Hey, buddy!" means, doesn't pick up much more subtle cues like indignant sniffs and what I call "ruffled feathers." It isn't necessarily paranoia that makes some people notice disapproval and others not.
