SG-ish Reactions

[PolyPrincess]

I am a childless, single (not just unmarried, completely uncoupled) Disney fan and I OFTEN feel isolated from other Disney fans. There's an assumption that if you love Disney, you must be married and/or with kids. And of course the vast majority of Disney fans are, but it makes me feel super left out (even ostracized) sometimes. I absolutely feel your pain. :(

There should be a support group for people like us! lol SoloDisney or GrownupsOnlyDisney or something ;)

[Darksin]

Ignore them. Their trolls who simply enjoy making your life annoying because their narrow minded and believe they are honestly the only opinion that matters.

Those types are the same ones who spew out opinions like "Marriage is only for having babies" then become highly offended if you don't suddenly pop out two or three. I get this opinion from my family all the time "Why do you go to Disney/Theme Parkss/Zoos if you don't have kids? Oh and when are you having kids anyway, you've been married 7 years and So-and-So had three kids by then and...." types.

I just point and giggle at them.
My reaction is "Yeah, it's great! No one to cry about this treat or that ride. No one to whine and no one else spend my money for me! What? You never experienced that? Man, that sucks for you".
Always get's their panties in a knot as they remember exactly all those horrible tantrum filled vacations!

As for the "when are you having kids" part I just pull out my favorite highly sarcastic comment. "Well I keep trying to knock my husband up but we're just not having any luck..."
Just watching the look on peoples faces while they compute that one is classic! :D:


Don't let 'em bother you, as my mom loves to say "You can't fix stupid honey.. even with duct tape".

Our next trip is September 2012, can't wait!

[LucyintheSky]

Wow, I guess I'm pretty oblivious, but I really had no idea that there were that many people out there with the attitude that people that go to Disney places without kids are creepy. I've happily gone to WDW with another adult or completely alone for years now, and never thought that there were people out there calling me a weirdo! But the idea of strangers judging me makes my blood boil.

So many people have hobbies that I don't "get". My husband is obsessed with fishing, and while I don't see how standing in one spot with a stick and a hook on a line waiting to drag a fish out of the water is fun... HE does. He doesn't get how going to Epcot every weekend to watch bands is fun, but I do, and we don't judge each other.

Anyway, I don't understand how some people feel justified in judging complete strangers on what they do for fun, or how they choose to spend their vacation. To the OP, don't pay any attention to the morons who refuse to believe that Disney has a lot to offer to adults, too...even the ones who aren't dragging around little screaming monsters. Have a great honeymoon!

[Buggy]

So this one time I was calling Disneyworld for a planned trip and I asked if there were any sort of events where single people could meet. I meant more to try to make friends, but my meaning was misconstrued and the kindly older lady on the phone replied, "we're more of a family park," in the same tones one might say, "we're more of a white country club."

Since then, I have happily gone to Disney parks with friends and family, and my wife and I are going to Disneyland Paris early next year.

I never have had kids and I never will. Do what you want and don't let other peoples' judgmental attitudes bring you down.

[Goofyernmost]

Wow, I guess I'm pretty oblivious, but I really had no idea that there were that many people out there with the attitude that people that go to Disney places without kids are creepy. I've happily gone to WDW with another adult or completely alone for years now, and never thought that there were people out there calling me a weirdo! But the idea of strangers judging me makes my blood boil.

That would be because there aren't many people out there that give a rats butt what you do at any given time. I have never even noticed if someone is by themselves, has kids (unless they are making a big fuss) or anything and I certainly do not have the time or energy to form an opinion. I don't think that is just me...I believe it is pretty universal (oops! sorry for mentioning the U word).

Individual paranoia is the main culprit in this scenario. Those that are self conscience about what others think tend to think they see a look, or hear a comment and make it about whatever they are sensitive about. Even if it were true (which it isn't) why would anyone spend their time concerned about what total strangers think, one way or the other.

Family...that is a little tougher to deal with because they are focused on your individual situation...the rest of the world...not so much.

[Csaks]

Sooooooooo true (although I stick to my assessment that mostly this particular board is reasonable people with a sense of humor). I'm not a mother, and I try very, very hard not to judge what I see other parents doing out in public. I know there's a lot more going on behind any meltdown, request for a toy, refusal to cooperate, etc. than I can tell just passing by.

Just please, please, PLEASE, for the sake of my vacation, yours, and your children's, keep them cool, comfortable, and well-rested.

Don't get me wrong, I've talked to a bunch of reasonable people over there. I have gotten good advice and hopefully given some back. But there are the self righteous ones that get you all worked up, as per your example. Ignore them on the forum or you'll get written up and points taken away towards your future expulsion from the forum if you keep it up. Guess how I know!


Keeping the little ones cool, comfortable and rested. These are the people I was talking about. I don't have my own kids but I have plenty of nieces and nephews and recognize the 'I need a nap' melt down.

[WEDFan]

Individual paranoia is the main culprit in this scenario. Those that are self conscience about what others think tend to think they see a look, or hear a comment and make it about whatever they are sensitive about. Even if it were true (which it isn't) why would anyone spend their time concerned about what total strangers think, one way or the other.

Ummm, not necessarily. I don't really give a rat's butt about what other people think, but I have frequently been subjected to questions about why we are going without children or why we are going again. Direct questions are not the product of paranoia. That's not to say that evryone I meet makes those comments, nor is it saying that some people aren't more sensitive to the comments than others. I think the observation by many of us about the comments is that they are annoying -- not that we worry about them or change our behavior. Can't speak for everyone, but that's my experience.

[goofy1978]

Been lurking for quite some time, and thought I'd finally come out of hiding. :waves:

My wife and I go to WDW at least once every year without our kids! Of course, ours are 21 and 19, so we have no problem leaving them at home by themselves. Though even when they were younger, we just had my parents take care of them. We just returned from a week at OKW (first Christmas trip - usually go during Food & Wine), and we have a DL trip next May by ourselves as well. We are not creepy or crazy, but we do love Disney!!!

We say many meltdowns this trip as people were literally dragging their kids around. Let them take a nap for goodness sake!

[BRWombat]

Been lurking for quite some time, and thought I'd finally come out of hiding. :waves:

My wife and I go to WDW at least once every year without our kids! Of course, ours are 21 and 19, so we have no problem leaving them at home by themselves. Though even when they were younger, we just had my parents take care of them. We just returned from a week at OKW (first Christmas trip - usually go during Food & Wine), and we have a DL trip next May by ourselves as well. We are not creepy or crazy, but we do love Disney!!!

We say many meltdowns this trip as people were literally dragging their kids around. Let them take a nap for goodness sake!

Wow -- I came to this thread late. Most everything's been said already -- just ignore the ignorant trolls on Board X. (That advice works for just about every subject!)

Been lurking for quite some time, and thought I'd finally come out of hiding. :waves: ...

Glad you're posting, Goofy1978!

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[Goofyernmost]

Ummm, not necessarily. I don't really give a rat's butt about what other people think, but I have frequently been subjected to questions about why we are going without children or why we are going again. Direct questions are not the product of paranoia. That's not to say that evryone I meet makes those comments, nor is it saying that some people aren't more sensitive to the comments than others. I think the observation by many of us about the comments is that they are annoying -- not that we worry about them or change our behavior. Can't speak for everyone, but that's my experience.

I'm not speaking about people that you know that are asking questions like that. If you read any amount of discussion, Disney type, boards you will find that it doesn't matter if you have no kids or a hundred kids, people will still ask why you are going again.

I'm referring to the post that sounded like they felt uncomfortable because people were looking at them, without kids, and sure they were wondering why they were there without kids.

Well, I have traveled to WDW for the past 10 years, alone, and I'm considered a senior citizen now. The only place where I have felt that was from family and friends. I never had any indication or even the slightest hint that any one in the park gave a damn about it. Nobody really cares and unless you find out that they are planning an intervention, I am at a loss to understand why you think anyone is that upset about it.