Was waiting but...here it is.

February · Post by **February** » Tue May 31, 2011 1:57 pm

Thank you so much, Joanna.

I just have to say, folks, that of all of the people I know, my SGT friends have been, and still are, the most supportive group I have ever come across.

These are people who are not just a 'good luck and wish you well, hope it all works out' kind.

These are the kind of rare, special people that really, really come through with 'what can I do?' in a crisis- and I have tears in my eyes again of gratitude because I have always said that Disney loving people and CMs are the best in the world- and I stand by that. It's true.

I am so grateful for the support shown here, and in email too (which, again, I have a new email addy so I will try to PM it or PM me if you don't have it and want it!) Thank you is insufficient.

You are the best, and I appreciate each of you more than you know.

I have to run for now- am still in the process of sorting, scanning, and disposing of a whole lifetime--the past fifteen years of my life, just gone to shreds, literally.

But again, I maintain that I believe the happiest days of my life are directly ahead of me, and I will celebrate them with you with such joy and gratitude for you being here for me in the sad times. I am incredibly lucky to be in such company.

love,
~bru

BRWombat · Post by **BRWombat** » Tue May 31, 2011 4:39 pm

Dang, Bru, just saw your original post. I am so sorry for you. I wish I could offer more than hugs and prayers and somehow make the hurt go away... but you for sure have the hugs and prayers.

Main Streeter · Post by **Main Streeter** » Tue May 31, 2011 4:53 pm

BRWombat wrote: but you for sure have the hugs and prayers.

Bru, Wombat forgot to say he also has a song in his heart for you. i know he does. :)

BRWombat · Post by **BRWombat** » Wed Jun 01, 2011 2:59 pm

Main Streeter wrote:Bru, Wombat forgot to say he also has a song in his heart for you. i know he does. :)

Yes, that too. :)
:chorus:

February · Post by **February** » Thu Jun 02, 2011 2:28 pm

Aww, yes, thank you so much Wombat-- I think an appropriate song might be Somewhere Over the Rainbow. Or maybe even Goodbye Yellow Brick Road?! I'll sing them with you.

I won't wear you guys out with all this but just an update: I should have the papers in hand soon--there was apparently some delay but they were filed, my lawyer should have them by Monday at the latest and will send my copy to me.

Please, keep thinking good thoughts for me.

My family (the few who don't still shun me for religious reasons) are throwing back their heads and roaring because they're panicked at the idea of me moving away and not being there in the latest crisis to fix things.

They are also quite clear that they don't want anything to do with the situation (meaning they'll offer no help. Everything is my fault according to these folks...) My sister went on quite a tirade on the phone today and I feel pretty crummy about it :( I hate when people blame me for things I have no control over or part in-- like, how HER husband is reacting to the news of MY impending divorce! How do I have control over that? I never SEE the man! He said he's 'sick of her talking about me' so I said, 'so don't talk about me!'! I don't know how to get these people to stop blaming me for the fact that I exist.

At least I'm not standing for that stuff now- I heard hobie's advice from way back echoing in my head: "Disengage!!!" and that's what I did. They're not used to me standing up for myself and they don't like it but oh well, they'll have to get by somehow. Either I pick myself up and go on from here, or I give in to the depression, and that's not an option though believe me, there were points I was ready to. Instead I am choosing to live, I am choosing to start over.

I am not looking forward to telling my daughter, though...since she's not living here now I waited for the school year to end and for him to actually file. I will have to talk with her father first, figure out how best to handle it.

And March's parents are coming to town in a week and I have no idea what to expect there since we're still living in the same apartment... (I don't know if they'll be speaking to me, if they'll want me to stay out of sight, or what.)Trying not to think ahead too much. So yeah, please keep sending those good thoughts please??! They really do help.

xoxo
bru

DisneyMom · Post by **DisneyMom** » Thu Jun 02, 2011 3:49 pm

Hmmmm, the way your "family" acts reminds me of my former SIL who at the time said "she couldn't cope" with my divorce from her brother, so she didn't want to see me or my then small kids anymore........ummm, ok......I was thinking she's way more upset than I was by the divorce, by that time, I was happy it was happening :)
NOW,of course,she says she feels very bad that she couldn't cope

hobie16 · Post by **hobie16** » Thu Jun 02, 2011 4:42 pm

:thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

February wrote:"Disengage!!!"

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February · Post by **February** » Thu Jun 02, 2011 9:50 pm

DisneyMom wrote:Hmmmm, the way your "family" acts reminds me of my former SIL who at the time said "she couldn't cope" with my divorce from her brother, so she didn't want to see me or my then small kids anymore........ummm, ok......I was thinking she's way more upset than I was by the divorce, by that time, I was happy it was happening :)
NOW,of course,she says she feels very bad that she couldn't cope

Yeah, ain't that the truth, Disneymom? It reminds me of the story of the little hen, you know, the one who grew the wheat, made it into flour, baked the bread, then all the other animals from the farm showed up to 'help' eat it? I've been thinking of that story so much lately. My "family" wants me around when THEY are having a crisis (you all remember my Dad's illness, etc...) or when I'm doing something else for them. Otherwise- forget it.

When there have been challenges (like my eye surgeries-- and mind you, I have never asked for her to ever do so much as hold my hand, let alone ever take me to an appointment, etc. Never. I have never asked her for anything of any kind) all it was, was "You don't know how hard it was for me to see you go through that! It was awful while you were blind!" Then she has a habit of starting 'fights' that have no basis in reality and then disappears until things are better for me again.

Lifelong pattern. I bet your SIL had/has the same pattern and likely treats everybody in her life that way, I know my sister does. I'm sorry she didn't treat you better, you're such a gem, it really was her loss!!!

((((((hobie))))))!!! See, I have been learning! :)

xoxo
~bru

Main Streeter · Post by **Main Streeter** » Thu Jun 02, 2011 9:59 pm

February wrote: ((((((hobie))))))!!! See, I have been learning! :) ~bru

& improving bru.

February · Post by **February** » Thu Jun 02, 2011 10:37 pm

Main Streeter wrote:& improving bru.

((((((Main Streeter)))))) :) I hope so! I'm trying!

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