I'll try to avoid a flame war with my response.hobie16 wrote: Guidance counselor? There's a waste of space and funds. They call you in once a year, have no idea who you are or what you're interested in, and have completely forgotten you five minutes after you walk out the door.bookbabe wrote:Wow. Thanks for that. Good to know I'm a waste of space. Guess I better tell that to the dozens of kids who told me at grad last week that I'd made a huge difference in their lives and that they'd miss me when they went off to their various colleges and universities... :mad:
Sorry you had a bad experience with some counsellor in the past, but please don't paint everyone with the same brush...it's a kind of Board X thing to do, like the SGs that think all CMs are rude and unhelpful just 'cause they happened to run into one bad one.
My high school was literally across the street from Stanford. It was, and still is, rated in the 99th percentile of HSs in the US. The student body could be broken down into three groups. Those programmed to attend Harvard/Yale/Princeton/Stanford/etc., the greasers whose only goal was to snag a cigarette in the parking lot between classes, and the rest of us who would either be going to a JC or diving into the job pool after graduation.
Guess which group(s) got the most attention from the guidance counselors? It sure wasn't the rest of us.
You state, "... the dozens of kids who told me at grad last week that I'd made a huge difference in their lives and that they'd miss me when they went off to their various colleges and universities..." What about the rest of the kids? Why didn't they have any kind words for you?
I understand wanting to work with students who have high potential for success. You can look at their career arc and think, "I had a part in their success." You can also look at the greaser's career arc and think, "I kept that kid out of jail."
I taught sales reps and systems engineers for fifteen years. In retirement, I teach kids to sail. It's very easy to focus on the star sales guys or front of the pack racers but they are not the ones who need my help. Here's an example. In my last sailing class I had one little girl who must have been born with sailing DNA. She got in the boat, figured out how things worked, dialed in the wind, and was off and running. When we started them racing she was making tactical decisions that would get her a full scholarship into any major university who had a sailing program.
Meanwhile, another little girl was having a horrible time. She was getting buried in the starts and consistently came in dead last. We talked about where she was having problems on the course and I offered my race winning start strategy. She got a killer start, led the pack around the course, and pulled off an horizon job win. The payoff for me was the ear to ear grin.
So, my challenge to you is go get your hands dirty. Go work with the round headed kids who aren't off to colleges and universities. Go spend some time in the shop classes and find out what they're interested in and help them find their way. You may not get any comments from them at graduation but one day you'll pull into a garage or have a repair guy in your house and you'll hear a voice say, "Yo, Ms. Bookbabe. You probably don't remember me but you helped me figure out what I wanted to do with my life."